Over a lifetime of being treated as if you are just tolerated by the people who are supposed to love and accept you the most, I wonder if you will ever truly allow yourself to feel celebrated. Without deep inner healing that only God can do, I don't think it's possible. For "tolerated" needs to be plucked from deep within your soul and replaced with self-acceptance Love.
I do know one thing though: Staying where you are just tolerated is a choice. A choice many, many women choose because that is what is familiar, that is all they are worthy of. So believes their soul.
I hate the word "tolerance". Our society cries out from a multitude of people groups, "TOLERANCE!" The word "tolerate" means: put up with something or somebody unpleasant.
Love is NOT tolerance. We are not called to just put up with someone we feel is unpleasant or we disagree with, suffering through being in their presence. We are called to understanding and the acceptance that every human being is uniquely different and that they are all adored by God, Himself.
I think God spends our lifetime trying to get us to the point of feeling celebrated and knowing deep within our core that we are worthy of being celebrated. Oh, may you experience how intimately He celebrates you!
If you need to "go", then go. Pursue the celebration of your soul. Pursue it as if your life depended on it - for in most cases, it does. A healthy love-of-self depends on it. And self-love causes us to celebrate ourselves! And when we can finally celebrate ourselves, we will no longer tolerate just being tolerated.
Because of Him and Unto Him,